I find this sort of mantra really irritating and self-righteous. I can’t really put my finger on quite why, but the whole concept of “I don’t care what people think of me” is just ridiculous. It’s a nice idea; it would be great not to care, but we do, we all do, no exceptions. The jobs we’re prepared to do, the people we date, and the risks we take, are all dictated by concern for what other people will think. We base our identity and our sense of worth on others’ judgments of us, rightly or wrongly… It’s human nature, and for a good reason, it gives us limits. We are highly social creatures and we will do anything to avoid socially alienating ourselves.
I’m not saying we should get caught up in every little thing that others have to say about us, particularly if they don’t deserve to have their opinion respected. It’s unhealthy to be so inward and self-critical. But seriously, stop kidding yourself: you are not above basic human instinct.